संकल्प करावा नेटका
प्रिय नानू नागपूरकर यास,
फार दिवसांनी तुझ्याशी पत्रसंवाद घडतो आहे गेल्या वर्षभरात एका ओळीचेही ख्याली-खुशालीचे पत्र माझ्याकडून धाडले गेले नाही,याबद्दल मी मनापासून क्षमा मागते. आळस हे त्यामागचे एकमेव कारण, हे सांगणे नलगे!"केवळ लिहिता येते,म्हणून लिहिलेच पाहिजे असे नाही,त्यापेक्षा वाचावे,त्यावर चिंतन-मनन करावे"हा आमच्या आठवी -नववीच्या मराठीच्या पुस्तकातला बहुधा श्री.म. माटे यांनी लिहिलेल्या धड्यातला, ना.सी.फडके यांच्या "सारथी अणि घोडे" या पुस्तकातला उद्धृत केलेला मजकूर मला अशावेळी बरोब्बर आठवतो,त्या ओळी माझ्या नजरेसमोर बरोब्बर तरळतात,म्हणजे बघ!आताही गेले पंधरा दिवसांपासून गारठलेल्या दिल्ली -नॉएडाच्या हवेत मस्त रजईत ताणून देण्याचा मोह आवरून, हातातले पुस्तक बाजूला सारून मी हाती कागद-पेन आणि नंतर लैपटॉप धरला आहे,हेही नसे थोडके!आमच्यासारख्या आळशी लोकांची भारतवर्षातच काय,अख्ख्या जगात कमी नसावी. "उद्या एक जानेवारीपासू
नं
संकल्पावरून आठवले,नव्या वर्षाच्या सुरुवाती
" New Year is a time when we make resolutions, when we resolve we will lose that extra weight, spend more time with our family and learn that musical instrument. However as previous years would have shown, resolutions are more easily made than kept. Every year around 80 percent of the people make some kinds of New Year resolutions. Unfortunately, an overwhelming majority of these people forget about their resolutions within first several days of the New Year. If you are one of them, this year you might think, “What is the point of making resolutions when I can't keep them anyway?” Don't be frustrated! A recent study showed that people who make resolutions are ten times more successful in changing their lives than those who don't. This means, if you really want to achieve something in your life you ought to make resolutions.
Avoid perfectionist thinking. While we certainly always want to better ourselves, it is healthier to think in positive terms than it is to focus on how much we fall short of our aspirations. In other words, students should view the grade of an A- as better than a B, rather than not as good as an A.
View setbacks as lessons for growth. Mistakes can be and usually are opportunities for learning. Missing your workout and or getting angry with your child does not mean that you are incapable of following through with your resolutions. If you fall short of your goals, ask yourself what kept you from achieving them and then try to make corrections and move on.
Don't make absolute resolutions. Keep them realistic. For example, instead of saying you won't shout at your children anymore, resolve to shout at them less often.
Give them some meaning. People sometimes make resolutions that aren't necessarily meaningful to them. Your resolutions should be something you really desire to change or achieve, not something that society says is good for you to do or your family members would like to see you do. If you don't have strong, internal motivation within yourself, you won't be successful.
Take baby steps. Set realistic goals that are attainable and then take small steps that are likely to be met with success toward those goals. Don't try to lose 10 kilos in a month. Instead, try joining a weight loss program and try to lose a kilo a month.
View setbacks as lessons for growth. Mistakes can be and usually are opportunities for learning. Missing your workout and or getting angry with your child does not mean that you are incapable of following through with your resolutions. If you fall short of your goals, ask yourself what kept you from achieving them and then try to make corrections and move on.
Don't make absolute resolutions. Keep them realistic. For example, instead of saying you won't shout at your children anymore, resolve to shout at them less often.
Give them some meaning. People sometimes make resolutions that aren't necessarily meaningful to them. Your resolutions should be something you really desire to change or achieve, not something that society says is good for you to do or your family members would like to see you do. If you don't have strong, internal motivation within yourself, you won't be successful.
Take baby steps. Set realistic goals that are attainable and then take small steps that are likely to be met with success toward those goals. Don't try to lose 10 kilos in a month. Instead, try joining a weight loss program and try to lose a kilo a month.
Don’t overload yourself. It’s difficult enough for the average person to follow through on one ambitious New Year’s resolution; so avoid having 10 or 15 resolutions. Choose the most pressing issue at hand—losing weight, studying further, improving your relationship with your parents—and concentrate on that. Trying to do everything simultaneously practically guarantees failure across the board.
Give it time. Most experts agree that it takes about 21 days to create a habit and six months for it to actually become a part of your daily life. Once this new behavior has become habitual, it will be much easier to maintain, it is in the early stages that the most persistence is required.
Make contingency options. Don't assume sticking to your plan will be easy. You are likely to encounter problems along the way so be prepared with specific ways to overcome them. For instance what might cause you to break your diet or skip your workout? Plan ways to avoid the pitfalls and perhaps take help from others too.
Make contingency options. Don't assume sticking to your plan will be easy. You are likely to encounter problems along the way so be prepared with specific ways to overcome them. For instance what might cause you to break your diet or skip your workout? Plan ways to avoid the pitfalls and perhaps take help from others too.
Keep a journal. A journal helps you recognize your positive steps and makes it harder to go back to the same old habits.
Enlist Additional Help or Support. Some people will find they just can't quit smoking on their own, or reduce their financial debt without additional help and support. Whether it's in the form of a professional, a family member, or a friend, consider enlisting someone's help. This shows that you are not only serious about keeping the resolution, but that you realize your own strengths and limitations. For instance, a friend can help you practice communication. A financial manager can help you develop a realistic plan to get out of debt. Family members, friends, or even a professional can help you plan a career change. Getting additional help or support in this manner is sensible way to help increase your success in maintaining your New Year's resolutions.
Enlist Additional Help or Support. Some people will find they just can't quit smoking on their own, or reduce their financial debt without additional help and support. Whether it's in the form of a professional, a family member, or a friend, consider enlisting someone's help. This shows that you are not only serious about keeping the resolution, but that you realize your own strengths and limitations. For instance, a friend can help you practice communication. A financial manager can help you develop a realistic plan to get out of debt. Family members, friends, or even a professional can help you plan a career change. Getting additional help or support in this manner is sensible way to help increase your success in maintaining your New Year's resolutions.
Reward yourself with each milestone. If you've stuck with your resolution for 2 months, treat yourself to something special. But, be careful of your reward type. If you've lost 3 kilos, don't give yourself a piece of cake as an award. Instead, treat yourself to something non-food related, like a professional massage.
And remember...
Make some New Year’s resolutions which will involve fun too. Spending time with friends, going for picnics, gardening, week-end trips, doing puzzles with children are all things that could help you relax as well as improve relationships too, which you may not be doing now."
Make some New Year’s resolutions which will involve fun too. Spending time with friends, going for picnics, gardening, week-end trips, doing puzzles with children are all things that could help you relax as well as improve relationships too, which you may not be doing now."
बाकी, हे सगळ अमलात आणण्याचा संकल्प तूही करशील ,याची खात्री आहे.शेवटी काय, संकल्प करावा नेटका! मीही या नवीन वर्षात,तुला नवीन वर्षाच्या हार्दिक शुभेच्छा देतानाच,दर महिन्याला तुला किमान एक पत्र लिहीण्याचा संकल्प करते आहे.आता आपल्या संकल्पांचे कसे होणार या विवंचनेत तुही बुडला असशील.
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